Saturday, May 3, 2014

so...Here's My Natural Hair Journey!

I guess I can label myself as an infrequent blogger now...

-but anyways here's a story about how\why\when I became a naturalista!

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I began my transition around the 5th or 6th grade. I remember the exact details of this historical moment in my life! It all started on a summer day, it was during one of those out-of-school summer breaks; I was watching Jenny Jones (yea, that was a while back!) and it was one of those make-over episodes. One of the guests was a biracial teen girl that had very long and curly hair. The girl and her mother complained about how her hair wasn’t easy to comb or style and that the kids at school made fun of her for it. The show’s make-over solution to this was to straighten her hair; she loved it. I on the other hand LOVED the massive curly crinkles and waves! I told my sister, who was watching with me, that I wanted my hair like that -curly. She said that my hair would look like that if I stopped relaxing it because of our dad's side of the family (mixed up African-American genes with European lineage that you don't know anything about...but that's another rant story) having that particular curly texture . Next thing I remember is running upstairs to tell my mom that I didn’t want her to relax my hair anymore. She smiled and said, "Ok, but I'm not going to be doing it [your hair] anymore either." and I said, "OK!". 

So, as my hair grew my waves formed, having that still processed straight hair at the ends. I was young, I didn't care and it didn't bother me either or my classmates, in fact, they loved my hair! The guys would always comment on the waves sayin' that they were 360°s and then tease the other guys tellin' them my waves were better than theirs! Looking back my positive feed back from my peers in elementary school might have been mostly due to that fact that I pretty much grew up with them throughout the school years, because when I got to high school it was a completely different story.

Here, in high school, as a teenager, this is where I got the most mixed reviews. No one knew me there, I went to a school outside of my neighborhood. This school, just like my other; predominantly Black. There was like five Latino students, a few biracials, and like one White kid. The majority of the White populous were the teachers. So I was surrounded by brown skin people for the most part; people like me. This did not stop the harsh reality of me being ostracized for my kinky, curly hair; something that I never experienced before until then. First, during my freshman year, whenever I wore my hair in a puff (instead of my usual braid-out or twists) I was sure to get a comment -a negative comment. I remember two incidents specifically. I was walking in the crowded, loud hallway to my next class and one black girl looked at my hair and said to the other next to her "ugh". I remember feeling annoyed and upset, mostly upset and hurt. Then another time I was in the restroom waiting in line to use the sink when a fellow black, brown skin girl behind me looked my way and said to another "I'm glad I don't come to school with my hair not done." (side note, I gave her the death stare and she didn't say anything else after that, HA!)

As for the positive critiques on my hair, they mostly came from when I wore my hair in a braid-out or twist-out. I heard comments like "you have good-hair", "I can't wear my hair like that 'cause I don't have good-hair", and the one I even heard asked in elementary school sometimes "how you get yo' hair like dat?!" I find that comment the most astonishing because this hit me with the reality of how misinformed we (black-american people) are about our own hair! I always told them it was naturally curly, not knowing what else to say, I was like "it just grows out of my head this way, doesn't yours?". Then, here's another kicker, I remember receiving a lot of positive comments about my natural hair from white guys! One time in particular, I was at Bally's (I was a health conscious kid because of my dad, he got me a membership there when I was in high school, love him) this white guy on the machine next to me asked if that was my real hair, I said yes wondering what his point was, he said "oh, because I like it when women where their hair like that." so I replied "oh, thank you" and then feeling flattered and a little bit weirded-out because he was older than me giving this high school girl compliments in the gym... Then, there were these after school activities I was involved in where I had the opportunity to mingle with peers outside of my community where I received admiration about my curly locks. The other kids, (didn't matter what ethnicity, all of 'em would do it) would pull at a curl and watch it spring back up into it's shape commenting on this phenomenal occurrence! I really didn't mind though, I found it amusing that they found it amusing! 

Then, there were the few times I decided to wear my hair straight. I remember one time in particular, this black guy never made a comment about my hair or gave me a compliment until the day I wore it straight, he said "I like your hair like that". I was like "Wow, really?! You never had anything to say to me about my hair until I straightened it?" I actually asked him this, he didn't know what to say. Then, my senior year I wore it straight for those string of events (luncheon, prom, graduation) and on one of the graduation rehearsal days one of the black girls told me "I like it when you wear your hair like that, you should you should wear your hair like that..." implying that I should always and only wear it straightened. I just looked at her while she was saying this and said "Oooh" while walking away, not wanting to hear that. 

During these years of adolescence I both still hope and feel that I was some kind of positive influence in this whole natural hair culture. I think I'm pretty sure I was because I remember having a conversation with one of my high school peers about growing out the relaxer and going natural. She expressed how she wanted to do that but was afraid, or hesitant about it. I remember sometime with in the next years in school she began to wear her hair in a wavy, curly puff. I remember being glad to see that and feeling gratitude for being one of the possible influencers to her transition. I remember seeing a few other girls I new in my 'teens wearing their hair naturally via facebook. 

For the most part in my adult years, I haven't really received any really negative experiences about wearing my hair naturally. I'd say that they have been pretty positive, besides the occasional sort-of-compliment, sort-of-not, about having "good hair". Now as an adult I am still trying to become comfortable with the idea of wearing my hair full-out, big curly 'fro, I've always shyed away from this, preferring to wear just braid-outs and twist-outs instead. So, I'm still on this natural journey looking to reach new heights of confidence within myself, but I'm really grateful for how far I've gotten and how it has transformed my mentality and view of the world. My hair was an active participant in making me who I am right now. Looking back I believe it gave me a unique perspective and experience in my coming of age. 
I'm so happy! 

big hair dont care, nautral hair, 'fro, afro, curly hair
Me before getting ready to wash my hair! :)

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Natural HairStyles: Braided Updo


I couldn't stay away for too much longer!
These hairstyles are from early this summer.
(yea, I'm just now posting them in the fall...)


I went to get my hair styled (idk how to flat braid).
[This was the day after.] Everyday after that, I played
around with the styling. [the following pictures]








After about two weeks it was time to take it down. So this was my last
style from this updo! {my fav}


Thanks for Viewing!
Tamz


Wednesday, August 14, 2013

BLOGGER HIATUS

 BLOGGER HIATUS 
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But You Can Find Me On Pinterest
[I'm always pinning new stuff there!]

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I'm on Tumblr now too!
~Tamz

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Layered StyledLooks & Flat-Twist HairStyles

I've got two personal style looks, two polyvore sets inspired by my looks,
and three hairstyles!
ENJOY!

>> LOOKS <<
skinny jeans, burnout top
tan sandals, tan belt, ombre
Burnout Cowl-Neck Top | Drape Cardigan | Ombre Floral Skinny Jeans 
Floral*Floral ColorFloral

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Belted Shirt & Flare Jeans | Aubergine Dreamz | tamzlavender.blogspot.com | tiered blouse
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Layered\Tiered Blouse | Button-Down Shirt | Flare Jeans
Lace & Denim Look


HAIRSTYLES
two strand twists, flat twists, twist out
The evolution of one hairstyle.  

two strand twists, flat twists
Two-Strand Twists with Flat Twisted Back
I twisted the front center section of my hair, rolled it under, and pinned it.
The back is two flat twists (starting from the front and meeting in center-back)
with the loose twist pinned to opposite sides (looks like a braid).

natural hair, flat twists
FlatTwisted Two-Strand Twists with Flat Twist Back
Here I flat twisted sections of my twists and pinned it to the side!

natural hair, twist out, curls, curly hair, edgy hair style, flat twists, asymmetrical hair style
Two-Strand TwistOut with Flat Twists back
I simply took out my twists and pinned my curls to the side!

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 More Natural Hair Styles 
 Can be Found Here!⇩ 
{on Pinterest!}
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 Thanks for Viewing!
Tamz



Monday, April 29, 2013

Peplum Looks

This peplum trend is pretty popular. I've seen these tops worn at 
parties and they are actually figure flattering! The peplum looks 
I've seen were so cute that I just had to create a few peplum looks
on Polyvore!
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ikat print peplum top, pencil skirt, wristlet, wood necklace, wood bracelets, tassel bracelet

Print Peplum Top & Pencil Skirt
This look is one of the most common peplum looks: peplum w/ pencil skirt
This ikat print top evokes a tribal, ethnic vibe; so pairing it with earthy
brown & wood accessories paired just right!
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studded peplum top, cobalt blue full skirt, ikat bag, fuchsia platform wedges, teardrop earrings, point necklace

Studded Peplum Top & Full, Flared Skirt
I don't see this pairing often, but when the right peplum top meets the
right flared skirt. the look works! This is a nice way to pull off this trend
for any one who doesn't want to wear a form-fitting pencil skirt. 
A-Line all the way!
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stripe peplum top, full floral skirt, bow wedges, straw tassel bag, leather bracelet, silver collar necklace

Stripe Peplum Top & Floral Bordered Full, Flare Skirt
This is a fun & bold look! The collar necklace is perfect with this striped look
because it borders the neckline of the top just as the floral print borders
the black skirt. Plus strips and floral is such an appealing pairing!
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Thanks for Viewing!
Tam

Sunday, March 31, 2013

HAIR {styled simple.}

. Two Quick Hair Styles .

Large Flat Twist & Knit Hat
Just a large flat twist and a hat! The rest of my hair was either
confined by twists or "tamed" by twist out....
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Large Flat Twists w/ Hair Clipped
This style I did unintentionally! I was just flat twisting my hair so
that I could wear it curly, but then I saw the flat twists in the front
and liked it! So I kept them in!

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Large Flat Twists are so easy, simple & cute! Luv doing 
them for a quick manageable, style!

 More Natural Hair Styles 
 ⇩Can be Found Here!⇩ 
{on Pinterest!}
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Thanks for Viewing!
Tam

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Natural HAIR HAIR HAIR: Fros & Puffs

Fros & Puffs
Natural Hairstyles
Some days you just gotta let your hair be free.
( or you really just don't feel like styling it (>‿◠) )

natural hair, fro, flat twist
Curly Fro, Flat Twist & Colorful HeadScarf

twists, fro, coiled
Coiled Twists & Fro
My sis created this by continuously twisting the
loose hair until it coiled, as so, using hair-weave. ]

Puff, Afro Puff
Pomp & Puff
[ I just took a section of hair & loosely rolled it over like so. ]

puff, flat twist
Puff & Flat Twist w/headscarf 

Puff, Flat Twist, & Two-Strand Twists

Afro Puff, Flat Braids, Two-Strand Twists
Flat Braids, Two-Strand Twists, & Puff
[ The puff is actually a hair piece! ]


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 More Natural Hair Styles 
 ⇩Can be Found Here!⇩ 
{on Pinterest!}
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Thanks for Viewing!
Tam